http://mastering-life.com Take control of your life... A step-by-step guide on how to be happy and start living! Tue, 31 Aug 2010 15:35:12 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://mastering-life.com/coaching/putting-a-stop-loss-order-on-your-friends-about-friendship-love-and-relationships/ http://mastering-life.com/coaching/putting-a-stop-loss-order-on-your-friends-about-friendship-love-and-relationships/#comments Wed, 07 Jul 2010 08:47:28 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=146 Yesterday I met up with one of my friends who asked me for a coaching session some months ago and I finally managed to free up 90 minutes in my schedule so we met, had dinner and started chopping away at what seemed like 'external circumstances that could not be overcome' that caused all of the problems. Since I have noticed similar problems in almost all of the sessions that I provided, I decided to write a little bit about it in generic terms. One of the first problems people have is that they don't know what they want. You may have known what you wanted as a young child but over time society, culture and environment polished you into who you are right at this moment. It is said that "environment is more important than heredity" - meaning that the people that you interact and meet up with are more important factors to who you will end up becoming than what is in your DNA A lot of times, people don't know what they want because they have been conditioned and because the people around them tell them that their dreams are "impossible!"... so they just give up on them. What I'm about to tell you today may seem radical. You may even think I have gone out of my mind with the title: "Put a stop loss order on your friends" but you will understand what I mean shortly. Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/coaching/putting-a-stop-loss-order-on-your-friends-about-friendship-love-and-relationships/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/how-to-start/procrastination-is-easy-to-overcome-when-you-know-what-it-is-telling-us/ http://mastering-life.com/how-to-start/procrastination-is-easy-to-overcome-when-you-know-what-it-is-telling-us/#comments Fri, 02 Jul 2010 16:51:15 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=124 We plan a whole lot of things but never get to it. You might hear the alarm clock buzz, turn it off and head back to sleep... or you may keep pushing back some important task that you really need to finish... Why is that and how do we overcome it? It's quite easy when you understand what it is and why it is happening to you... Procrastination is the habit of putting the wrong priorities on tasks. It's not that you don't know that it's important - you DO know it's important - but that it's just so much easier to do those five smaller things instead of clearing this one hurdle. Quantity does not make up for quality though! So why do you procrastinate and how can you solve it? Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/how-to-start/procrastination-is-easy-to-overcome-when-you-know-what-it-is-telling-us/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/goal-setting/celebrate-your-victories/ http://mastering-life.com/goal-setting/celebrate-your-victories/#comments Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:50:47 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=122 I just noticed a habbit that has kept me back from achieving some of my goals. If you see yourself in what I describe, you may have found a reason that is holding you back from achieving your goals. Earlier this year I have made my goals lists. I've been working on them pretty deligently and am overall happy with the results. On some aspects however, I felt overwhelmed with the things I have to do to make my goal come true... until I found out what I did wrong... Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/goal-setting/celebrate-your-victories/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/our-strength-is-found-in-our-differences/ http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/our-strength-is-found-in-our-differences/#comments Tue, 22 Jun 2010 06:47:37 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=109 When you accept that everyone is different and that there's a genius in each and everyone of us, there's nothing we can't achieve together. Don't try to be someone else. Just be yourself, but be the VERY BEST YOU that you can be. I received this video from a 13 year old genius who we all can learn from. Watch it and take some time today to think about what you can do to put a smile on people's faces today. Watch the video]]> http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/our-strength-is-found-in-our-differences/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/who-or-what-do-you-want-to-come-back-as-in-a-next-life/ http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/who-or-what-do-you-want-to-come-back-as-in-a-next-life/#comments Thu, 17 Jun 2010 08:17:33 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=102 Often when people asked me as who or what I wanted to come back in a next life, I often answered "as pure energy, as inspiration". Imagine that you can be a cloud of inspiration, ... someone is walking along the road with their mind wrapped around a problem... and by walking through the cloud, they suddenly have that "A-Ha! feeling"... Wouldn't that be great? In fact, looking around us, why should we even wait until a next lifetime... Why not INSPIRE SOMEONE TODAY? Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/inspiration/who-or-what-do-you-want-to-come-back-as-in-a-next-life/feed/ 2 http://mastering-life.com/nlp-paraliminals/how-to-overcome-anxiety-and-fear/ http://mastering-life.com/nlp-paraliminals/how-to-overcome-anxiety-and-fear/#comments Mon, 14 Jun 2010 05:25:10 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=98 You may have already read by previous post on a marvellous book called "How to stop worrying and start living" by Dale Carnegie. In it is described how to overcome your fears by looking at the worst possible outcome, accepting it as a possibility and looking at even it would happen if that would open up other opportunities events for you. After accepting the possibility of the worst case scenario, you no longer need to worry about it. You already know what 'can' happen. This gives you a clear mind - the tool you need to start looking at the opportunities and solutions instead of the problems. Now, if your worries or anxieties are sending you at times in a state of shock or if you need some extra help, you might want to check out paraliminals. Paraliminals are a tool created by Paul R. Scheele of Learning Strategies in Minnesota. If the name sounds familiar, it might be because he has spent his career on helping people develop and reach their fullest potential, on of the techniques being speedreading, which I will devote an article to later. Getting back to Paraliminals though. What are paraliminals? Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/nlp-paraliminals/how-to-overcome-anxiety-and-fear/feed/ 1 http://mastering-life.com/book-reviews/book-review-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living-dale-carnegie/ http://mastering-life.com/book-reviews/book-review-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living-dale-carnegie/#comments Tue, 08 Jun 2010 10:23:53 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=69 I just finished reading (or rather listening to the audio version of) "Dale Carnegie's book: How to stop worrying and start living" and can highly recommend it. Most of the illnesses as well as stress and depression is the result of worries. Often worries are completely unwarranted for as only 10% of those dreadful scenarios really come to pass. Since there was no course on how to overcome worries, Dale decided to write one himself, to be used in his adult education. If worries are holding you back from going after your dreams, if you feel like you're stuck and don't know what it is that you truly want and you still have to "make a living" in the meanwhile, get this book. In it you will find an abundance of information on how to overcome these worries once and for all. Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/book-reviews/book-review-how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living-dale-carnegie/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/an-easy-tip-to-make-your-affirmations-work-better-for-you/ http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/an-easy-tip-to-make-your-affirmations-work-better-for-you/#comments Wed, 02 Jun 2010 08:45:59 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=62 In one of my earlier posts you may have read that I set myself up for a lot of stress when reading aloud my daily affirmations. One reason was that I did 'not have enough time' to gather knowledge on how I would make my dreams come true. The other reason was that my affirmations I had not optimized my affirmations for this temporary but harmful situation. For about two weeks I started to have a lot of stress each morning when I got up out of bed and read my list. My body did not believe it. If also felt like a chore, so I knew I had to make some changes. Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/an-easy-tip-to-make-your-affirmations-work-better-for-you/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/improving-upon-your-affirmations-list-the-next-90-days/ http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/improving-upon-your-affirmations-list-the-next-90-days/#comments Thu, 20 May 2010 03:15:02 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=12 I think my list has been great! But, it is also been very long; as in 3-4 pages long! As it is important to focus and to make your affirmations as effective as possible, I felt it was time to reorganize my list. Here is how to go about it... Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/improving-upon-your-affirmations-list-the-next-90-days/feed/ 0 http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/the-first-90-days-review/ http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/the-first-90-days-review/#comments Wed, 12 May 2010 08:03:03 +0000 chris http://mastering-life.com/?p=10 Congratulations! You have made it through the first 90 days! You may have experienced that throughout these 3 months at some point in time, you may have unintentionally replaced "the next 90 days" with "the rest of my life". It happened to me and it was rather funny when I heard myself say this. It was a testament that I had changed my paradigm and it demonstrated the power that lies in this process. I do not recommend to change it permanently however. Keep the "90 days". This makes it easier to change your affirmations once in awhile... and in fact, even on day 89, you have already committed yourself to continue on for another 90 days anyway. The end sentence is a great trick and it works wonders! I also noticed that it was quite easy to remember my huge list of affirmations but I felt something was missing when I was just "reading" them so I started to experiment and tried to find ways to make them become more powerful. Here is what I discovered... Read more]]> http://mastering-life.com/affirmations/the-first-90-days-review/feed/ 0