Yesterday I met up with one of my friends who asked me for a coaching session some months ago and I finally managed to free up 90 minutes in my schedule so we met, had dinner and started chopping away at what seemed like ‘external circumstances that could not be overcome’ that caused all of the problems. Since I have noticed similar problems in almost all of the sessions that I provided, I decided to write a little bit about it in generic terms.
One of the first problems people have is that they don’t know what they want. You may have known what you wanted as a young child but over time society, culture and environment polished you into who you are right at this moment. It is said that “environment is more important than heredity” – meaning that the people that you interact and meet up with are more important factors to who you will end up becoming than what is in your DNA
A lot of times, people don’t know what they want because they have been conditioned and because the people around them tell them that their dreams are “impossible!”… so they just give up on them.
What I’m about to tell you today may seem radical. You may even think I have gone out of my mind with the title: “Put a stop loss order on your friends” but you will understand what I mean shortly. Read more
We plan a whole lot of things but never get to it. You might hear the alarm clock buzz, turn it off and head back to sleep… or you may keep pushing back some important task that you really need to finish… Why is that and how do we overcome it? It’s quite easy when you understand what it is and why it is happening to you…
I just noticed a habbit that has kept me back from achieving some of my goals. If you see yourself in what I describe, you may have found a reason that is holding you back from achieving your goals.
Often when people asked me as who or what I wanted to come back in a next life, I often answered “as pure energy, as inspiration”. Imagine that you can be a cloud of inspiration, … someone is walking along the road with their mind wrapped around a problem… and by walking through the cloud, they suddenly have that “A-Ha! feeling”… Wouldn’t that be great?
You may have already read by previous post on a marvellous book called “How to stop worrying and start living” by Dale Carnegie. In it is described how to overcome your fears by looking at the worst possible outcome, accepting it as a possibility and looking at even it would happen if that would open up other opportunities events for you. After accepting the possibility of the worst case scenario, you no longer need to worry about it. You already know what ‘can’ happen. This gives you a clear mind – the tool you need to start looking at the opportunities and solutions instead of the problems.
I just finished reading (or rather listening to the audio version of) “Dale Carnegie’s book: How to stop worrying and start living” and can highly recommend it. Most of the illnesses as well as stress and depression is the result of worries. Often worries are completely unwarranted for as only 10% of those dreadful scenarios really come to pass. Since there was no course on how to overcome worries, Dale decided to write one himself, to be used in his adult education. 
In one of my earlier posts you may have read that I set myself up for a lot of stress when reading aloud my daily affirmations. One reason was that I did ‘not have enough time’ to gather knowledge on how I would make my dreams come true. The other reason was that my affirmations I had not optimized my affirmations for this temporary but harmful situation.
I think my list has been great! But, it is also been very long; as in 3-4 pages long! As it is important to focus and to make your affirmations as effective as possible, I felt it was time to reorganize my list. Here is how to go about it… 
Congratulations! You have made it through the first 90 days!